Finding your real WHY. Not the BS one.

Let's be brutally honest here, reader. So many times we think we know why we're doing things. We think we have a deep understanding of our own motivation, of our reasons. But the reality is? We're missing the bigger picture.

That's a HUGE problem. The bigger picture is what allows us to have the results we want. 
(Keep reading. You'll understand soon.)

I want you to shut your eyes right after you read the above bolded sentence and ask yourself, "Why is it so important to me to keep my fitness and nutrition in check?"

Perhaps your answer was, "Because I need to lose 10 pounds or I want to fit into that dress I wore two years ago to the holiday party that I now have to squeeze myself into." Maybe your answer has absolutely nothing to do with weight loss. Maybe your answer was...

"I want to feel better."
"I want to sleep better."
"I want to lower my cholesterol."
"I want to show my kids what healthy looks like."

You're possibly feeling satisfied right now because you nailed it. You answered that question and you know what your why is. You have a goal. You're going to go for it.


I want you to ask yourself another question. Brace yourself. I want to ask yourself WHY.

If you want to lose that 10 pounds, ask yourself WHY. 
If you want to feel better, ask yourself WHY.
If you want to show your kids what healthy looks like, figure out WHY.

Here's where I'm going with this. I'm going to show you something. I can't believe I'm doing this, yet again.


That is me. Gen. Co-Owner of Underground Fitness LA, otherwise known as "Mean Daddy." That's me in my underwear, for you to see. I didn't cut my face out because I never wanted you to doubt my own transformation.

The picture on the left was taken in May of 2016. I was a few years out of having my second child (I gained a total of 185 pounds between two pregnancies) and I had become injured to the point where I could no longer work out. I was really, really unhappy. Take a look at my face

The picture on the right was taken one year later in 2017. I guess you could say there was a difference, huh? 

When I made the decision to figure out how I could come back to working out after injury, my "why" was because I needed to lose the weight I had put back on from my fitness hiatus. But that wasn't the real why. 

The real why was because I was miserable. 
I felt awful in my skin. I hated the way I felt. I hated the way I looked.
I was embarrassed.

Then I dug deeper.

I was embarrassed because this was not what I wanted my kids to witness. I couldn't chase after them as quickly as I should've been able to. My skin had started to break out. I was sleeping way too much, and for way too long. I had become lazy. I had started to use my injury as an excuse to stay on my ass.

And then I dug even deeper.

Because I was afraid I would never lose the weight. 
I was afraid that I was going to fail. 
Failing, for me, was not an option.
So I'd rather not try than risk failing.


It is THAT realization, my friends, why I was able to transform my own body through fitness and nutrition. Not only did I transform my body, but I transformed my mind too. 

I learned that getting over the fear of failure gave me the greatest opportunities to grow as a Mama, a business owner, and as a woman. I learned that it gave me the gift of showing my children that failure is an option, that failure is absolutely okay, and that without failure? You never truly have room for growth. 

(I am a Pinterest quote.)

So right now, what is your why? Can you identify it?

Can you use your own why, your very personal why, to push you through even the most difficult times and decisions? 

Write it down. Sit with it. 
And remember. 

Until next time...